Life is hard, but with the right mindset hacks, it can be a whole lot easier.
I’ve compiled all of the best mindset hacks that took me from sad, anxious, and depressed, to living life confidently on my own terms, filled with happiness, a purpose, and fire in my belly that has me so excited to wake up every morning.
If this sounds like something you’ve been longing for, then I wrote this specifically for you. So without further ado, let’s just get right into it! Take notes babe, because this is going to change your whole life if you allow it to!
1. Find Your Voice Then Use it
Everyone has a voice that stands for who they are and what is most important to them. This voice is what makes us who we are and we are meant to use it to find and accomplish our life’s purpose.
Shutting that voice down and not using it will only hold you back from achieving whatever greatness your life path has in store for you.
Speaking your truth by telling your story, spreading your message, or standing for you what you believe in, is crucial to standing in your power as a woman.
3 Ways to Find Your Voice
- Take a look at what you believe in and what your passion is, your voice is hidden in there somewhere.
- Write more. Journal on your thoughts and feelings, create online posts that tell stories or state your opinions, or write a whole dang book. Just write, not because I’m a writer and I know these things, but because writing your voice is a great first step to speaking your voice because it is easier and much less scarier.
- Think before you speak so that you can be more confident in what you’re saying before saying it.
2. Drop Your Resistance To Change
Life is constantly shifting and changing but instead of being adaptable to this we resist it and waste our precious time and energy fighting against it.
Instead, we should be embracing change, increasing our flexibility to change, and get busy preparing for change so that when it comes, we are ready.
We must also lose our fear of the changes that come our way and get comfortable being uncomfortable.
We have to accept that change is inevitable and drop our resistance to it so that when it shows up we embrace it and use it to grow and evolve.
3. Remove Your Doubt That You Can Succeed At anything You Do
Whatever it is that you desire to be successful in, whether it be in relationships, business, finances, etc, you must remove your doubt that you can make it happen.
The Universe will give you all that you desire all you have to do is decide. But if there is any doubt in those desires, you are actually presenting the Universe with two different things: a desire and a doubt.
The law of attraction says that like attracts like and what you focus on in your mind will become your reality. But lack of clarity and doubt will stop the law of attraction dead in its tracks.
Even if you don’t know how you can possibly succeed, keep focusing on your desire because THE HOW is not your job, only the continued focus on your desire is.
4. Always Try To Be Better Than You Were Yesterday
We’ll never be perfect humans but we can always try to be better than we were before. This is the ultimate growth mindset that’ll take you from broke to boujee, sad to happy, unfulfilled to in love with your life.
This is about continued growth in the right direction and a commitment to showing up for yourself every single day in whatever way that looks like for you.
Of course, you’ll always have your days, the shitty ones that knock you right off your feet and make you feel defeated. But tomorrow will always show up with another offer to try again.
So when life comes for you and you fall short of being your best self, wake up the next day and try to be better than you were the day before. Do this every day for best results.
5. Connect With Other Women
You are never as alone on your journey as you think you are. There are many women on your same path, feeling the same fears, facing the same doubts, and experiencing the same struggles that you are.
When we connect with those women we feel a little more confident, a little more inspired, and we find just a little more strength to keep pushing forward on this journey called life.
How To Connect With Other Women
- Follow and engage with women who inspire you on social media channels. You can follow me on all platforms here: @girlunfinished
- Attend women’s events
- Join a women’s group
- Seek out female mentorship
- Takes a women’s class
- Volunteer with a women’s organization
6. View Other Women’s Success As A Sign Of What’s Possible
Jealously often rises up when we see women doing things that we are not. It’s almost as if it’s a natural human reaction for us.
Maybe it’s because it’s a direct reflection of what we wish we could be doing as well. Or maybe because it triggers that “life is so unfair” feeling.
But when we seeing these women doing grandiose things with their life, let’s start looking at it as a picture of what is possible for us too. Because if she can do it, so can we.
7. Seek Out The Truth For Yourself
When you first came into the world you were just an infant with no prior belief systems or negative thoughts that could sabotage you in any way.
But shortly after that, your parents, teachers, and mentors started filling your mind with their own belief systems and rules of life. They did that not to harm you but to teach you how the world works, based on their own beliefs and life experiences.
And because those people were important to you, you took their rules and beliefs and made them your own. But a lot of the time, those beliefs are not really what you believe and this is where you need to seek out the truth for yourself.
- Do you really believe these things to be true?
- Was this belief your belief or was it given to you?
- Is this belief even real?
A simple evaluation of your current life rules and belief systems can be life changing.
8. Remove What No Longer Serves You
Take inventory of your life and remove things that don’t bring you value, peace, love, or joy. This mostly means stop doing things you don’t want to do, set boundaries, say no more often, and love people from a distance if needed.
This will not only make you happier but it will also create more space for new and exciting things to come into your life.
9. Focus Only On What You Can Control
If you really sat back to think about all the drama and stress in your life I can almost guarantee that so much of it was based on things that were not in your control.
And if these things are not in your control, there isn’t anything you can do about them right? So what exactly is the point of focusing on them?
A much better alternative is to only focus on what you can control and also learning to control your response to things and situations outside of your control (protip). Because that is all we really do have control over when these situations arise.
Related Reads: 50 Things You Can Control Right Now
10. Evaluate Your Priorities
Your top priorities will show you what is most meaningful to you and give you a clear picture of what your core values are in life. This will help you start living your life with intention, only filling your time with things and experiences that contribute to your top priorities.
Often times we get caught up trying to live according to other people’s values thinking they are also our own. But this is where resistance and struggle start to show up in our life because when we do this we are out of alignment with our own true identity.
Make a list of your top priorities in life, then make sure everything you do compliments those priorities in some way, shape, or form. Anything that doesn’t is just a waste of time.
11. The Life That You Desire Is Meant For You
If you desire it, the thing, the person, the experience, the life, it is meant for you!
Our desires are given to us by our higher power source (God/Universe) and they often lead us to our life’s purpose.
But you must believe that to be true and you must not deny yourself of your desires.
Instead, get in the habit of allowing your desires to come through so that you can actually receive them without any guilt or thoughts that you are unworthy of them.
12. Put Deadlines On Your Goals And Plan Your Celebration
When setting goals, give yourself a deadline for accomplishing them and plan how you are going to celebrate when you get there. This will help you hold yourself accountable and makes things more fun by giving you something to look forward to.
Related Reads: The Easiest Way To Accomplish Your Goals
13. Surround Yourself With Better People
If your current group of friends don’t inspire you to be better, do better and give you constructive criticism when needed, it’s time for an upgrade.
When you’re looking to up level your life, it’s important to be around people that are doing the same or are already ahead of you. This will inspire you to keep moving forward on the path and will also give you a support system of like minded people that can lift you back up when the going gets tough.
14. Find The Message In Your Mess
In life, there are always going to be obstacles and bumps in the road. And a lot of the time life is going to seem unfair to you.
But if you can seek the lessons in what those obstacles are trying to show you, you will soon find out that those obstacles are just detours in the right direction.
When messy situations and unfortunate circumstances show up for you, try to figure out what life is trying to teach you.
Journal on it and see what comes up for you. Meditating on the issue can also reveal some insight. And lastly, good old fashion prayer can also bring the answers you are looking for.
15. Get To Know Your Intuition
Life is filled with decisions that you make over and over throughout your day. The choices you make within those decisions create the reality you are living each and every day.
So basically, we should all be pros at decision making, right? Nope!
Most people are actually poor decision makers and the lives they lead are direct reflections of that. If you feel like this is describing you, here’s the mindset hack you need to know…
Your intuition is your inner knowing or gut feeling that gives you the ability to “just know” things without reasoning or questioning them.
It is the voice inside your head that feels calm, confident, and peaceful; and when you learn how to tune in to it, you allow divine wisdom to guide you toward the right answers.
Intuition will never lead you wrong and it works every single time.
How To Tap Into Your Intuition
Sit in meditation and take 3 deep breaths. Think about something you need answers to, focus on it for a few minutes, then ask for a specific sign to show up for you as the answer in the near future. Journal on the outcome when it happens!
16. Drop Your Ego
The ego is like an internal, fear based, alarm system that makes you think self sabotaging thoughts like:
- What if I fail?
- Why is this happening to me?
- Why is everyone better than I am?
- What’s in it for me?
It is the part of you that is living in fear, always comparing, sabotaging, selfish, and controlling. Its only purpose is to keep you safe, but because it is a fear based reaction, the ego’s version of safe usually keeps you where you are and stops you from moving forward.
This is why dropping your ego and using your intuition to guide you instead is so important.
17. Let Go Of Limiting Beliefs
Limiting beliefs are usually self sabotaging beliefs that you picked up somewhere along your life path.
They are not real or true beliefs but because of your life experiences and circumstances, you’ve taken those beliefs and you made them your truth.
Some common limiting beliefs are:
- The belief that you are not worthy of love
- The belief that you are a failure
- The belief that you are broke
- The belief that life is unfair
These beliefs often lead to self sabotaging behaviors that can create havoc in all parts of your life. But here’s how to let go of your limiting beliefs and break the cycle.
Related Reads: Limiting Beliefs: What Are They + How To Overcome Them
4 Steps To Letting Go Of Limiting Beliefs
- Recognize the limiting belief.
- Look for phrases you say that start with “I can’t, I don’t know, or any other negative self talk.
- Find the root of the belief.
- When did this belief start?
- What happened that created this belief?
- Was this belief given to you by someone else?
- Find a new belief to replace the old.
- Look for evidence that proves the belief wrong
- Use affirmations that rewrite the negative belief into a new more empowering belief
- Act as if it is already true even when it feels weird and uncomfortable.
18. Don’t Stop, Keep Going!
Whatever you decided to do whether it’s starting a business, a fitness journey, a marathon, etc, do not stop especially when the going gets tough because consistency is the key to accomplishing anything.
If you want to get to the finish line you have to keep showing up, day after day, and do the work, whatever it may be. Daily action every day even when it gets hard and uncomfortable will lead you straight to your goals.
So keep showing up for yourself, you deserve it!
19. Mindset And Goal Setting Go Hand In Hand
When you are setting goals the first thing you need to do is get your mindset right about your goals. This means getting very clear about what your goals are and doing the mindset work that is needed to make your goals actually happen.
Pro Tip For Goal Setting
Start by figuring out your WHY.
Why do you really want to get in shape? Why you really want to start saving money? When you explore this question, most likely you will find that it leads to the feelings you will have when you get there.
Will losing weight bring you more confidence and make you feel better? Yes? Then what you really want is more confidence and to feel better.
Knowing the feelings behind our wants and needs makes it much easier to make our goals happen because it is deeper and it tells us the endgame. THE REAL END GAME.
So focus on the end game rather than the road map to get you there. You might find that there are other ways to make this goal happen.
20. Get More Specific On Your Goals
I recently took a look at my previous goal lists from years past and every goal on the list was so very surface.
- “I want to get in shape”
- “I want to give back more”
- “I want to be a better mom and wife”
- “I want to get more organized”
Do these goals sound familiar to you? I think yes! We tend to go real surface when it comes to setting goals.
But if you really want your goals to manifest, you need to get serious about them by giving them more substance and breaking them down with more specific tangible results.
“I want to get in shape” should sound more like this: “I want to lose 10 pounds and lose one pant size.”
“I want to give back more” should be “I want to volunteer at the animal shelter and donate more to my church.”
Do you catch my drift? With this goal-setting technique, your goals will be more narrowed down, more clear, and will give you an actual roadmap to follow that will let you towards accomplishing them.
21. Mind Your Sauce
You are your own kind of special sauce. No one has the same sauce that you have and that’s pretty special. So don’t go falling into the trap of trying to be like someone else’s sauce while neglecting your own.
Sure you can be influenced by other people’s sauce, you can even take the recipes, but always add your own unique spice to it.
It’s much better to be uniquely you than a carbon copy of everyone else and no one likes neglected sauce anyway just saying.
22. Remove Negative Self Talk
The power of the tongue is real. When you say things like “I’ll never be good enough” or “I could never do that” you are telling the universe that this is in fact what you want and the Universe will continue sending you more of it.
Negative self talk is the ultimate form of self sabotage, but the good news is that positive self talk works exactly the same way.
Remove your negative self talk, replace it with some positive affirmations, and watch your life transform.
Related Reads: How To Use Positive Affirmations To Change Your Whole Life
23. Your Thoughts Are Creating Your Reality
What the mind believes the eyes will see. This means that all those thoughts in your head, negative or positive, are going to manifest themselves in your life one way or the other.
If you constantly lean towards the negative thoughts, this hack can help you.
How To Upgrade Your Thoughts
- When a bad thought arises observe it without judgment or allowing it to make you feel bad.
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- This will help you bring awareness to your thoughts and help you realize that they have no power over you unless you give it to them. Bad thoughts can just be bad thoughts, they don’t have to mean anything and they definitely don’t have to affect your whole day if you don’t want them to.
- Once you have awareness of the thought immediately shift your focus to a new more positive thought.
- This will help you take back your power over your thought patterns and allow you to start creating a more positive reality for yourself.
24. Judgments Of Others Are Reflections Of What Needs Work Within
When we see something in people that triggers us to make judgments about them, it is often because subconsciously, it is making us aware of something that we lack within ourselves.
It can also be a reminder of something we don’t like about ourselves but are not willing to admit.
Learn to notice your judgments, then think about why you are judging. You will eventually find the root of the judgment is centered in how you feel about yourself.
25. Heal Your Inner Child
Your inner child is not a literal child but rather it is the part of your subconscious that is still childlike, innocent, and full of wonder.
This part of your subconscious stays with you into adulthood and is very much alive with you today.
Because every person has experienced some degree of pain or difficulty as a child, the inner child is something all of us have. And when we are triggered by a challenging or difficult experience in adulthood it is very common to respond from the space of the wounded inner child.
Healing the inner child is key to stopping the cycle of self sabotage caused by unhealed trauma.
To learn more about healing your inner child click here: How To Heal Childhood Trauma
26. Self Care Is Not Selfish It’s Survival
Self care is putting yourself first for the greater good of those around you. It is not selfish simply because when you are feeling your best you are even better at caring for others.
You have to fill your cup first so that cup can then overflow into others.
Related Reads: 11 Self Care Solutions From Expert Self Care Bloggers
27. Know Your Worth
You are more precious than rubies and pearls! You deserve the whole world and everything in it.
You do amazing things every day. You juggle it all, you make things happen, you save the day, and in the end, things always seem to work out for you don’t they?
You are basically the superhero in the story of your life. Know it, trust it, BELIEVE IT, because it’s true.
28. Follow Your Bliss
Only do things that feel good to you or that bring value into your life. That includes the job you hate. You may hate it but it provides you with income and that is value. A small mindset change around your job can be so helpful.
Follow your bliss by finding what feels good to you then do that as much as you can.
Protip: Lean into your intuition for this, it will always lead you in the right direction.
29. Keep Your Energy Flowing
Stagnant energy inside your body can affect your emotions, your confidence, your manifestations, and even your health.
Release stuck energy with dance, cardio, sex, orgasm, breathwork, and so much more.
30. Be Your Own Hype Man
Don’t sit around waiting for someone to tell you that you are a badass beautiful woman. Tell it to yourself every day over and over.
It will eventually sink into your subconscious and become your new belief about yourself.
31. Step Into Your Highest Self
Visualize the best version of yourself, the woman you could be if there was nothing holding you back and money was not an issue.
This is your highest self and who you are meant to be.
- What does she look like?
- What clothes does she wear?
- What does she do with her time?
- How much money is in her bank?
- Who does she surround herself with?
Journal on these questions then start showing up as her daily. Visualization is manifestation, you will eventually become her!
32. Don’t Take Yourself So Seriously
Be silly, dance like no one is watching, jump on the bed, make silly faces, and act up sometimes. Life is more fun that way.
33. Be Open To Other Peoples Points Of View
Even if they don’t align with your own. If all 7.6 billion of us had the same POV, how boring and lame would that be?
It is actually a good thing to expose yourself to different points of view and perspectives, you might actually learn something you didn’t know.
Also, fighting with people over a difference of opinion is a complete waste of time and energy. Stop it!
34. Focus On The Positive
Even in the worst of situations look for the silver lining. Focusing only on the negative is a slippery slope.
It slows your forward moving progress and diverts your focus away from all the positive things you have in your life.
It also attracts more negativity towards you at the same time.
Choose to seek the positive in all situations. Life has a way of sending you little messages through the struggles, if you look you will find them.
35. Sharpen You Faith And Gratitude
Sharpen your faith in yourself, in God, and faith that everything is going to work out for you.
Unwavering faith is the type of stuff that moves mountains and giving gratitude every day instantly raises your vibe.
It also opens you up to receive more, by shifting your focus from what you are lacking to what you have in abundance which attracts even more abundance your way!
Final Thoughts On Mindset Hacks Every Woman Should Know
If you haven’t had any AHA moments by now go back to the beginning and start again! Also, check back soon because I will definitely be adding to this list as I also continue on my journey of mastering my mindset and becoming the woman I was meant to be!
Thanks for reading and please share with someone you think it could help!